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Punking A Dog: Alpha Posture

If you stick around the “manosphere” long enough you hear talks about what does and doesn’t constitute an Alpha Male.  Nine times out of 10 during one of these discussions, someone will bring up lions (one out of 10 its gorillas).  I suppose because they are so beastly and large, Lions are seen as the epitome of Alpha.  With good reason: They sit on their ass all day while the females hunt, called the kings of the jungle, and they’re fierce.  Violently fierce. 
 
While a lion my be a good judge of what an alpha looks like, it wont really help you become that much more alpha.  Instead, look at dogs.  While they don’t display the same alpha tendencies that lions do (though dogs can be pretty bad ass, and I’d hate to cross a wolf), dogs do something very useful for our purposes: They supplicate instinctively.  If you watch dogs interact, you can always tell which one is the champ and which one is the chump.  Instead of observing lions and how alpha they are, observe dogs and notice how they all supplicate.  The reason being in your day to day interactions, you know what to look for from other people when you’re in the room.
 
True story about me and a dog!  I was at one of my clients’ house for my actual job and they had this mean dog in the back yard.  It was on the fence, barking and growling and jumping and making a fuss every time I was outside.  If you’ve taken any sort of dog training courses or been through obedience school with your own dog, you’ll know that all that dog was doing was making a bunch of noise and hoping I would give it attention.

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1. Aloof Demeanor

I just ignored him.  The dog wasn’t the reason I was at the house, and he didn’t have any bearing on the task I was assigned at that house.  He was just there.  So I ignored him approaching the door, ignored him while I was at the door, and ignored him up until I went inside and he could no longer see me.  Its not that the barking did or didn’t bother me, it was simply irrelevant.  It didn’t matter – and I made sure that showed with my body language.  When I came back outside, he resumed his fit and started barking, growling, and the like – but this time it was worse, more violent – so I faced him.

2. Eye Contact, Chin Up

Its well known that dogs establish dominance through eye contact.  However, a dog will also measure dominance through other postures.  If you’ve ever brought a new puppy home to your old dog, for example, you’ll see that the older dog will stand over the new one – he’s asserting himself.  Keeping these things in mind, I made eye contact with the dog, took half a step forward slowly, and lifted my chin.  The dog had wanted my attention, and when I gave it to him he attempt to assert himself.  What he wasn’t expecting is that I’d stand up to him.  It blew my mind, but as I held my chin up and took my step forward (how I would establish social dominance in a bar) the dog actually submitted!  He laid down on the ground (a sign of submission in dogs) and whimpered.  I dismissively broke eye contact and got in my truck.

The reason I tell you this story is to make a point about Alpha Frame and sub-communicating your frame with your body language.  I’ve heard some people say the most important thing about being perceived as in charge is being comfortable with yourself.  While its true that being comfortable with yourself is a much needed component of being social (and consequently getting laid), how you carry yourself is extremely important to the alpha vibe you give off.

In a social setting, you should always hold your head up slightly higher than level and not avoid eye contact.  When your hold your head a bit higher it comes off as charismatic and confident, all you need to do is throw a smile in there to not look like an asshole.  Don’t avoid eye contact.  People who look for eye contact are just trying to get a feel for you and avoiding eye contact is a sign of being non-confrontational, passive, and submissive – not vibes you give off.  Meet their eyes casually, but always break the contact dismissively (exaggerated blink as you slowly turn your head).  Make it look like you broke eye contact because you were bored with them, not because you were threatened.

If you’re ever physically threatened (rarely happens to me), you can probably bet that the guy feels threatened by the ownership you display and is looking to knock you down a peg so he can resume his place as ‘top dog’, or he wants your wallet.  In either case, remain calm and in a level voice explain why you prefer to be friendly, smile and remind him we’re all having a good time and dismiss him.  If he continues and wants to fight, don’t back down – though physical escalation should be avoided between men.  If he really is mugging you, don’t try and alpha dog your way out – just shoot the fucker and be on your way.

I don’t need to tell you that women love a strong and dominant man.  Despite them not being willing to admit it, women love a strong man that can pin them to the bed and take their love – plunder it from them.  They want your cock to be a jackhammer, not pasta al dente.  If you give off the right alpha vibes in a social setting, her hamster will go into overdrive as she thinks about how she’s not a slut for trying to weasel her way into your apartment.  Even the most misandric woman wants to be dominated – deep down – be a strong man.  Now, omegas, I’m not advocating rape – in fact I’m even really talking about sex.  Biologically, women want to be lead by strong men, they don’t want to be in charge.  They may think they do, but once they submit to a strong and masculine presence, they’ll be happier (dated feminists, seen it happen).

And to make sure you’re well-rounded, we’re going to touch on business for a moment.  I was checking out this one blog and the guy brought up Steve Jobs’ ability to make anyone believe what  he wanted, and accomplish amazing things.  This is humorously known as his ‘reality distortion field‘.  The blogger made a point of saying that what people were calling an “RDF” is really Jobs’ intensely powerful frame – and he’s right.  Jobs carried himself like an alpha, and it moved his business and changed the entire world.

Talent aside and all things being equal, imagine how carrying yourself like the man you are will revolutionize your life.

Go out there today and remember how dogs interact, always deciding social dominance and reacting accordingly, and see if you can’t tweak your body language to get similar responses from your peers.  I have faith in you all!